To begin I'd like to tell you that you're not alone in your frustration. According to survey of psychologists 68% of us approach or experience holiday get-togethers with feelings of fear and obligation. But it's quite up to our power to deal with it. Here is how to do it:

When relatives begging commenting you and your life try to find the hidden love in your relatives' negative comments. Family members usually think they are being helpful by making observations about your weight, look or asking probing questions about your love or work life. And their comments often have to do with their own problems than with you. Usually they are trying to teach you to be the perfect person because they aren't. So try to learn something from them and generally take them easy.

Once your family enrolls into hot discussion of something, pretend you are an interested outsider. That way you can keep your sense of humor, appreciate the diversity of personalities and opinions in your family and