A little understanding makes forgiving a lot easier. If you don't understand everything, of course, you don't have to forgive at all, but it helps to understand something when forgiving comes very hard. When we get hurt we are half blinded by our pain. There is always more going on in an encounter with pain then meets the eye of somebody freshly hurt; it takes awhile to see it; even longer to understand it. Sometimes, by understanding some of what really was going on inside the person who hurt you, you make forgiving a little bit easier for yourself, even though you still
have't plow by hand through a thick crust of hurt and hate. Forgiving is wisdom's high art; the point of this story, forgiving someone for the pain they caused you will linger on till you forgive them, it's them that are needy..believe me without forgiveness you will never be happy within yourself.let go and forgive,it may be a very long process but at the end you will have peace...to all who have been in